Starting to think like your spouse ?

It is true that opposites attract, so if one is a left brainer one tends to get attracted to a right brainer and vice versa but never the twain shall meet. For example if you were brought up in a very disciplined environment it is more likely that you will choose a spouse who is more spontaneous or disorganized if you can call it that.

With the passage of time the very things that initially attracted one to one's spouse slowly turns to become the source of one's irritation. However if fundamentally the marraige is going well then one tends to accept these irritations in order to continue to have a "happy married life".

With the passage of more time the acceptance becomes a part of oneself and one slowly starts to think like one's spouse. So the right brainer starts thinking with the left also and the left brainer starts using the right- meaning both self and spouse become similar in thinking. Also even though one may or may not agree with one's spouse's point of view it definitely makes one see another point of view - again and again and again - until albeit in a small way one starts thinking like one's spouse.

This can have one of three results on oneself - more whole or complete self as one now has multiple points of view, completely changed self who now thinks exactly like his/her spouse or the most undesirable completely unsure self causing complete lack of self belief.